Cupid's Poisoned Arrow

Sex is great, right? I mean from popular literature you can't have too much sex, can you?  And, more sex in a relationship makes the relationship better, right? 

Wrong. Traditional wisdom suggests that sex can be a destructive or a constructive force-based largely on whether it is driven by lust or love. Most movies, TV shows and song depict lust-driven relationships filled with passion and sex as the norm, but they also reveal that these relationships are "crazy" and "difficult," which they are.

In this episode of Seeking Light and Truth, I'm going to talk about concepts I got from the book Cupid's Poisoned Arrow. What you'll learn is that the "warm, fuzzy, cozy" feelings we associate with love are the result of a bonding hormone called oxytocin. If we engage in behaviors that stimulate the release of oxytocin, we'll feel these warm loving connections with our partner.

Lust driven sex, on the other hand, is driven by dopamine, which is the neurotransmitter involved in all addictive behaviors. It's a motivating hormone, but it can also be a destructive force if we don't learn to manage our appetites. Also, organism leads to the release of prolactin, a hormone that actually makes us feel satiated and not want to be around our partner. It helps us understand the honeymoon period and why a man and a woman who were getting along great before they started sleeping together, sudden have a relationship filled with drama afterwards. 

Sex is a sensitive subject, so don't watch this webinar if you aren't ready for a frank discussion about this important topic.